When Child Milestones Are Extra Bittersweet

bittersweet child milestones

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The other day I started thinking about how as a parent, you just never know when the last time you’ll do something will be. And the fact is that if you have one child or multiples in one go, and you know you’re not having any more, those last times are even more poignant. Every last really is a last. In fact, every first is a last too. All those bittersweet child milestones are even more bittersweet when you’re only on this journey once.

bittersweet child milestones

Every Last Really Is A Last

The reason I started thinking about this was something that happened the other day. Previously, when the twiglets would wake from their nap, they would both desperately want to be carried downstairs. They’d still be a bit sleepy and would want a bit of a cuddle etc. So rather than take one at a time and leave the other crying, I would carry them both down. One on each hip. And everyone was happy (for a whole five minutes anyway 🙊😂)

The other day though, I suddenly realised that I couldn’t remember the last time I’d carried them both down the stairs. One maybe, but not both. I’m not sure that I could safely do it now, given the weight and size of them. Just a silly little part of our daily routine but I hadn’t even realised it had ended. It got me thinking about all those ‘lasts’ and how you just don’t always know when that last time will be. The thing is, for us, we won’t be having any more children. (Almost definitely not, at least!) So every last really is a last.

Mixed Emotions

Recently I’ve seen a few posts in which people have talked about feeling sad as their last child achieves milestones. They know it will be the last time they see a child of theirs do these things. This has made me feel a bit more justified in how I feel about every milestone the twiglets reach.

Happy, excited and heart-achingly proud. But each one tinged with a hint of sadness.

I think that when you have twins or multiples, or one child but you know you’re not having any more, this ‘last child syndrome’ is heightened because every first is a last as well.

Every First Is A Last

For example, both the twiglets hit three months (at the same time – funny that 😂) and bang! That was it – I’d never have a newborn again. When they turned into toddlers, that was it – no more babies.

I remember a friend I used to teach with being an absolute sobbing wreck on her twins’ last day at primary school. At the time I couldn’t understand how it could be quite that upsetting. She tried to explain that it was because she didn’t have another child coming up through the school after, to soften the blow by allowing her to experience it again in a few years. That was it. This was pre-twiglets so at the time I just couldn’t relate at all. Now however, I totally get where she was coming from and am quite sure that I will be exactly the same when the time comes.

I mentioned feeling ‘justified’ in how I feel about these bittersweet child milestones. I worry I could come across as ungrateful, moaning about being sad when milestones are reached. But this is so not the case.


I feel so so lucky to have two beautiful, amazing children. I LOVE being a twin mama and, despite the amount of whinging I do, I actually wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s so amazing and special to experience double of everything at once (though hard work of course!🙊) But I like to be honest and share my true deep-down feelings and I know that there are lots of other mamas who probably feel the same way.

I think for me, it’s heightened at the moment because it seems everyone is popping out newborns left, right and centre and I’m SO broody at times. (That is, until I actually think back to the reality of those early days 😂)

But our little family unit feels pretty complete and pretty flipping perfect really 😊😍 So I will just deal with the extra bit of emotion at each birthday and each of those other bittersweet child milestones. Instead I’ll try to just focus on celebrating all the fabulous new things the twiglets are learning to do. And get my newborn fix from cuddling other people’s babies 😊

Thanks so much for reading! Til next time,

Hannah xx

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